#17 Join a crit group. Online, in person, via skype or ouija board or telepathy, seek out other people who also write and swap your work. Here’s some guidelines:
A. Try and find people who write in your genre, if only because the justice system doesn’t give you credit for NOT killing all of the people who wrinkled their nose up at you and said “Horror’s not really my thing”, (despite the fact that poorly written, by-the-numbers, nothing new to offer the world romance isn’t YOUR thing, but you still read the damn thing for them…) when you DO kill someone.
B. You’ll find that you’re “better” than some people (which just means that you’ve fallen down more than they have, usually) and it’s cool to help people. You’ll also find that there are people out there who have fallen down a hell of a lot more than you, and they can give you good advice and are, frequently, an inspiration. (Any writer without a dependency is an inspiration 🙂 Good luck finding one…)
C. You’ll get to read a lot of different stories in a lot of different voices, and you can learn from each and every one of them.
D. You’ll get to celebrate the successes of others, and they can share in your high and low points, too. (See what I mean about dependency issues?)